Post by smokinghorse on May 4, 2016 22:35:32 GMT -7
I have a very smart, very talented 19 year old daughter who is getting D's in college. I cannot even express how NOT ok this is with me. She tanked last semester, and she seems to be subtly hinting that this might happen again.
If she does, I'm cutting her off. No shit. College is too much money, her GPA is going to be so far in the toilet that she'll never qualify for the extracurricular activities and excursions offered to her. Those things are crucial if she's serious about anthropology. I do not have the last word, however. Her dad can still pay.
I'm beyond frustrated. This child is smart. If she doesn't have the necessary work ethic, how long are we supposed to keep financing her? Take a year off. Find a place on your own. See if you enjoy the lifestyle of the full time, bottom rung, unskilled work force all by yourself. I so do not understand how my parents, without ever threatening physical harm, made me too scared to ever bring home any grade under a B. What did we do wrong? I worked full time and took 15+ hours a semester in college. It sucked, but it was not unmanageable. I finally quit working my Senior year and it felt like a friggin' vacation. Grades were important to me. Nobody ever had to explain that, or set standards I had to meet. I just wanted to do well. Why doesn't she give a shit??
Total parental failure mode. Fuck.
If she does, I'm cutting her off. No shit. College is too much money, her GPA is going to be so far in the toilet that she'll never qualify for the extracurricular activities and excursions offered to her. Those things are crucial if she's serious about anthropology. I do not have the last word, however. Her dad can still pay.
I'm beyond frustrated. This child is smart. If she doesn't have the necessary work ethic, how long are we supposed to keep financing her? Take a year off. Find a place on your own. See if you enjoy the lifestyle of the full time, bottom rung, unskilled work force all by yourself. I so do not understand how my parents, without ever threatening physical harm, made me too scared to ever bring home any grade under a B. What did we do wrong? I worked full time and took 15+ hours a semester in college. It sucked, but it was not unmanageable. I finally quit working my Senior year and it felt like a friggin' vacation. Grades were important to me. Nobody ever had to explain that, or set standards I had to meet. I just wanted to do well. Why doesn't she give a shit??
Total parental failure mode. Fuck.
Whatever's going on with her, she's an adult woman who is making her own choices right now. Maybe your conversation will help her sort out her priorities.
