kissy
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Post by kissy on Mar 1, 2016 8:06:10 GMT -7
He fussed at me. Lol said "they could have taken care of that." Good! He's exactly right. LET THEM DO IT. Eventually they'll get it right, or at least as close to 'your' right as they possibly can. They need the practice, this is life, lol. |
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Post by smokinghorse on Mar 1, 2016 8:52:10 GMT -7
Kissy's right. They need to take some responsibility for their own messes. They're not gonna wake up one day and decide they want to clean everything. I know you see it as something that sets off your ocd button, but I see it as you being taken advantage of and desperately under-appreciated. Also, you're enabling.  |
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Post by nomorewirehanger on Mar 1, 2016 8:58:10 GMT -7
I know. I know  Larry says he's gonna "fix them"... I'm just so used to doing everything on my own. Hubs is particular about the house but only if he's not the one doing the work. The kids aren't and never have done much. The rug in the living room needs vacuuming. Why am I the only one who notices it? That sort of crap. I am not scrubbing the tub this week. I'm not mopping the floors or running the vacuum. Physically don't think I could right now. But knowing that none of these things are going to get done until the end of the month is ...seriously eating at me. I've told him. I do floors and scrub the bathroom on Monday. I dust and wash sheets on Tuesday. Whatever day I have time I do a "mama sweep" on the girls room. (Run the vacuum a little better than Lala can. Windex their mirror. etc. Grab that dirty sock they keep missing under the bed. Nothing major. Takes me five maybe ten minutes....and it's helped immensely in keeping their room together) He just looks at me like "yea. OK. None of that's happening. " Sigh. |
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Post by nomorewirehanger on Mar 1, 2016 9:01:55 GMT -7
Example of how he doesn't get it .... the girls dirty pajamas were all over the bathroom and bedroom floor this morning. Gabs softball bag didn't get put up last night. THESE are things I do not let slide. I got up as they were brushing teeth and he's just chilling...OK.
Me: "girls. Get your clothes in a hamper..now. g- that bat bag gets put up before school ma'am...someone is gonna trip on it"
Him: "geez mama woke up cranky."
No... you're letting shit slide. It took MONTHS to get them in better habits and he's so used to not being here he has no clue.
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Post by nomorewirehanger on Mar 1, 2016 9:12:07 GMT -7
I'm likening it to....
Say you're going on a much needed and overdue vacation. You have to train your fill in for while you're gone. You spend a lot of time planning and prepping your materials and co workers because, you're going to be out of pocket for awhile and your work is important to the overall bottom line of the company.
And management sends you the most lackadaisical pain in the ass as a trainee, who thinks he can just waltz in and boss the employees around and expect results. You begin to panic because.... this trip is all paid for non refundable tickets. Can't cancel....and you KNOW this cat is not only gonna have your employees in full blown chaos when you return...
But that none of your personal duties are going to get done at ALL ...much less to your standards.
Makes it very hard to relax and enjoy that trip when you know that the inbox is gonna be overflowing with complaints and undone tasks and you're going to have to retrain your employees...
And a new hire.
Does that make sense?
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Post by smokinghorse on Mar 1, 2016 9:26:58 GMT -7
It does. It does make sense. But...you don't tell a new hire, "I like things done a certain way". You say, "Please go to this closet. There, you will find a vacuum. Please plug it in, vacuum this floor, this floor and this floor. Then unplug it, and put it back where it was".
Also, it might be worth considering that every once in a while, the small stuff you're sweating may be impacting your quality of life....maybe?
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Post by nomorewirehanger on Mar 1, 2016 9:32:12 GMT -7
I know. I'm a basket case. I just...finally got control of all this chaos. I'm terrified of the work it will take to put everything back together when I'm recovered. |
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Post by kissy on Mar 1, 2016 10:01:25 GMT -7
The fact of the matter is--none of it matters, because your health and the babies well being are at stake here. So rather than stress about what you're not doing, what THEY'RE not doing, just let it go. If it becomes chaos then Larry will have to deal with it. And all you have to do is say 'I tried to get you all set up for this and you decided to do it your way, now you get to deal with it'. That's all there is to it. To bad you can't go have the baby somewhere nice, and alone, and tropical.  Then you won't be confronted with all the things Larry and the kids are going to let slide and complain about. Honestly, that's the part that would piss me off most. With as much prepping as you've done the last month or so there is NO REASON things should go to total shit, expect that you live with a houseful of lazy ass people who have little to no respect for all you do. But maybe, just maybe, if you let it get out of control they'll get it. It could happen! |
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Post by nomorewirehanger on Mar 1, 2016 11:36:55 GMT -7
I know. I'm trying. It's just hard
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Post by kissy on Mar 1, 2016 11:42:58 GMT -7
I know it is, I wish I was closer so I could help!
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Post by nomorewirehanger on Mar 1, 2016 11:53:53 GMT -7
Xo. I'm good. I swear. It's just hard explaining I feel ...emotionally better Lol if I'm DOING something. Sitting on my butt just leaves me feeling so...blah and anxious. :/
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kissy
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Post by kissy on Mar 1, 2016 12:00:08 GMT -7
Well you can always fold laundry sitting down. And you can help with dinner if something needs mixing--sitting down. If laundry needs to be down have the kids strip beds and carry it to the wash. Have them switch it out. I KNOW it sucks but don't worry about your kitchen, you'll get it back soon enough.  |
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Post by nomorewirehanger on Mar 2, 2016 9:58:27 GMT -7
I'm not even gonna tell y'all or him what all I've accomplished while left alone this morning rofl. But please know I'm taking lots of breaks. Drinking a lot of water, and doing the vast majority of these chores seated. I feel fine or as fine as one can while super waddling lol |
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Post by ronin on Mar 2, 2016 17:25:06 GMT -7
LOL. Glad you found a way to keep yourself busy without wearing yourself down. |
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Post by nomorewirehanger on Mar 2, 2016 19:02:24 GMT -7
My house is sparkly lol
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Larry says he's gonna "fix them"... 
Then you won't be confronted with all the things Larry and the kids are going to let slide and complain about. Honestly, that's the part that would piss me off most. With as much prepping as you've done the last month or so there is NO REASON things should go to total shit, expect that you live with a houseful of lazy ass people who have little to no respect for all you do. But maybe, just maybe, if you let it get out of control they'll get it. It could happen!
