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Post by kissy on Feb 28, 2016 18:55:02 GMT -7
HAHAHAHA! I'm sorry, but yeah, I get it. The things J bitches about makes me nuts compared to the things he doesn't at all find annoying. Take care of yourself girl. But yeah, I get it.  |
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Post by nomorewirehanger on Feb 28, 2016 18:55:41 GMT -7
It's literally gonna be four times as much work than had he just let me do a little here and there throughout the day. Sigh.
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Post by kissy on Feb 28, 2016 19:00:57 GMT -7
Yeah but, but, but, but. Just let it go mama. Trust me. It's all good.  Bake baby bake and GTFO as soon as possible before mama loses her shit, haha! |
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Post by nomorewirehanger on Feb 28, 2016 19:26:34 GMT -7
I'm close. Lol I'm like.....how is this not a problem?! And he's like "I'll have it spotless when you're off your feet. And organized better"
Kissy if he reorganizes my spice cabinet when he cooks maybe once a year ....
I'm smothering him in his sleep
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Post by ronin on Feb 28, 2016 20:54:17 GMT -7
You know how I can tell that L didn't grow up poor? Because he didn't just take a bulb from somewhere else in the house and put it in the kitchen. Unless that's a weird specialty bulb. Then that totally makes sense.
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Post by nomorewirehanger on Feb 29, 2016 2:59:15 GMT -7
You know how I can tell that L didn't grow up poor? Because he didn't just take a bulb from somewhere else in the house and put it in the kitchen. Unless that's a weird specialty bulb. Then that totally makes sense. He tried to take one from the living room lamp. I threatened his existence because that's the lamp that keeps me from running into walls my seventeen trips to the bathroom. It sends JUST enough light down the hallway. He didn't argue because frankly he just didn't want to wash the dishes. He's not fooling anyone least of all me. He trashed my kitchen and now I get to pick up the mess. (Point of reference. It's 4 am. And I'm literally waiting for him to walk out the door so I can put my house back together. I tossed and turned all night and even added random shit I think he might bitch moan or whine about to my to do list. Because having his "help" comes at a very annoying and loud price. ) |
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Post by kissy on Feb 29, 2016 7:13:36 GMT -7
I've gotten pretty good at just taking things in stride. I've spent the last 7+ years stressing over every. single. thing and I'm seriously surprised I haven't had a heart attack over it. I get it, I like my kitchen to be cleaned up before I go to bed so I don't wake up to a messy one. But if that doesn't happen every single night, I'm not going to lose sleep over it--I can't. It's just not that important. J is OCD about stupid shit. Like, there is a light switch at the bottom of the stars and one at the top. We (me and Ry) are not allowed to turn the stairwell light on with one switch and off with the other because the switches are backwards. I think it's ridiculous and I used to get all pissy about it but now? I do it wrong on purpose just to get his goat. It's more fun that way. It's interesting to me the things that bug me don't seem to bother him at all and vice versa. He will vacuum and leave the damn machine in the middle of the floor and will step over the thing all day long rather than moving it off to the side (he gets sidetracked very easily, shiny object, so he'll start something then move on to something else before it's finished effectively leaving the house a mess in his wake). I get he's not done with it so I don't expect it to be put away but seriously, MOVE IT OUT OF EVERYONES WAY, lol! But now I just move it and go on about my life because bitching at him isn't going to change him. He can't change, it's impossible, lol. |
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Post by nomorewirehanger on Feb 29, 2016 7:22:52 GMT -7
It's very similar here Lol like.... the shit that bugs him? Baffles me. Because.... it's things he doesn't even have to DEAL with ever.
The cabinet ...for example.... that holds the kiddos lunch kits and the sandwich baggies. It's a hot fucking mess. I got tired of nagging them to put the lunch kits in neatly. The alternative is they get left on the counter or table..fine....shove them in the cabinet and shut the door. I just don't care. It's like the Tupperware cabinet. It's a pain in my ass but in the scheme of things ? Not a huge priority.
He ranted about those cabinets in MY kitchen for thirty minutes yesterday... because..." how can y'all live like this" ...
But laundry piles and food left to fester was fine.
Wtf lol I can shut those cabinets.. it clearly only EVER BOTHERS me... the kids do not care and life is too Short to spend it stacking lunch kits for an hour every evening.
Why is this a big deal? Lol
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Post by nomorewirehanger on Feb 29, 2016 7:32:54 GMT -7
Like... why is the organization of shit he never touches a big deal? But ive literally been looking at THIS  For.years. That's in the middle of my dining room. Another point of contention. The bathroom closet. He gets mad the kids sometimes put stuff in the wrong drawers  This "mess" of MINE drives him NUTS. Another example of his....plain fucking weirdness you say? OK. My "craft" area is cluttered. Because I have no room. In my defense I'm making room today so my new cameo will have a home.  My mess is that one bookshelf Lol everything else I use for wreaths and kids crafts is stored in boxes in a cabinet in the garage. This is the stuff I haven't boxed yet. He bitches about "that mess" daily Yet....glance across the room. Did I mention that's been that way YEARS? LOL HE'S NUTSO |
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Post by smokinghorse on Feb 29, 2016 7:38:55 GMT -7
I'm torn. On the one hand, he's trying. However incompetent he may be, he's doing something. Which probably feels to him like a lot, as anything is 100% more than nothing, which is what he usually done. So, I applaud that. The sandwich maker thing wouldn't matter to me. He's making dinner? Who cares how?
On the other hand, he should be aware of the fact that, in your world, dishes are more important than light bulbs. So he loses a little. Then, the constant passive aggressive comments are bullshit, so he loses points there, too.
In the end, I think it's a lot like ronin's doctor office story. Helping your wife is not much help if you're complaining about it the whole time.
#gorocky
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Post by smokinghorse on Feb 29, 2016 7:41:12 GMT -7
We have that EXACT same shitty computer desk.
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Post by nomorewirehanger on Feb 29, 2016 7:58:26 GMT -7
We have that EXACT same shitty computer desk. I want to take a blow torch to it ROFL. And I know he's trying. I'm being much less bitchy to him than the venting I'm doing here. Though the lunch kit cabinet thing made me laugh in his face. Our kids only bring their lunches on certain days dear husband. I'll pay him if he can tell me which ones lol |
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Post by kissy on Feb 29, 2016 9:19:30 GMT -7
If he's busy bitching to you about YOUR mess he doesn't have time to deal with his own. |
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Post by nomorewirehanger on Feb 29, 2016 9:22:32 GMT -7
Right lol
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Post by kissy on Feb 29, 2016 9:29:03 GMT -7
I hate it when they do that, just like children. Yeah that desk would drive me bananas and J would have no ground to stand on trying to fuss at me for stuff if he couldn't even keep his space neat and organized. Nope, you get to have a STFU sandwich and you can make it your damn self!
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