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Post by nomorewirehanger on Jan 1, 2016 20:50:45 GMT -7
I'm told there are parents who just LOVE when their children are out of school and home with them.
The only upside to the last two weeks has been not having to fight G to find her fucking shoes, comb her hair, or brush her teeth before 8 am everyday.
Other than that I cannot wait until Tuesday. When they all become someone else's problem for 6-8 hours a day.
The oldest is angry because I don't "take them to do anything fun ever"
No. I don't. Y'all are a pain in the ass to get dressed. And unlike your egg donor I demand you shower before I bring you in public. You have refused to do that since ....what day is it? Friday? Yea. You haven't showered since you got home Sunday night. I'm not willingly going anywhere with your nasty ass.
The oldest girl. Is bored. Bubbas stupid Xbox hogs all the internet. She's mad because they can't all be on their various internet hogging devices all at once because I refuse to switch companies, pay 3x more for a faster speed Internet I deem unnecessary , and require them to.either take turns playing Xbox/tablet etc. Or stfu.
And I kick everyone off when I want to look at craft supplies because.... fuck all y'all. The internet bill is in MY NAME.
The second girl: whiney crying fighting all around needy attention whore. Everything sucks. Everyone sucks. Everything is against her.
Omfg being five is so fucking HARD.
The bitty is sickly with a cough because the parent who NEVER takes them to do ANYTHING EVER let daddy loose unsupervised in the fireworks store last night. And we went to a friends to blow stuff up. And it was cold and started raining on us.
But mostly she just misses her best friend who went to Florida for break. She wants lite people her size and to be back at school. So she's... also super pouty.
Tuesday cannot get her fast enough. I may even wake up early to make a gourmet breakfast to celebrate.
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Post by smokinghorse on Jan 1, 2016 22:56:13 GMT -7
I'm told there are parents who just LOVE when their children are out of school and home with them. I'll elaborate tomorrow. I have a cold and I'm sleepy, but I wanted to say that I call bullshit on that staying home thing. Maybe if the parents are working, but home with a brood of whiners all the time? Give me a fucking break. They're bored, it's cold, and it's all your fault. This notion of non-stop adoration aggravates me. I have fun with my kids. But not every minute of the day. And I blame these stupid kid-centered universe notions for making parents feel less loving, less nurturing, or somehow selfish for not liking parenting all the time (oh, no you didn't say that!)<audible gasp>. Sometimes, my kids are assholes. And even when they're not, sometimes I don't want to be around them. Sometimes, the longer I'm away from them, the more I miss them. Sometimes, the more I'm away from them, the more I WANT to be away from them. If you don't get parent burnout, you likely work a lot, or you're lying. I don't know why it's so taboo to think, "I have time off right now. Instead of dragging my kids around to find something to keep them from climbing the walls every fucking day, I think it would be great to ship them off to a sweat shop during break. They make a little money, they learn gratitude, they gain perspective, and they certainly won't get bored. Just one week where I can finally have some "me" time. Maybe finish a book". But, no. Not because sweatshops are bad. Because parents have no business thinking about their own needs and wants. You are either supermom, or you're leaving little Johnny alone to sleep in the baby swing all night while you're off giving blowjobs to support your meth habit. Cape or crack whore, which is it? Ok, harsh, but you know what I mean. I'll sleep on it and see if I can make it more coherant tomorrow. Hugs, Chelsea. |
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Post by nomorewirehanger on Jan 1, 2016 23:03:35 GMT -7
I love you abbs Lol
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Post by smokinghorse on Jan 2, 2016 10:30:26 GMT -7
It's true, though. I just feel like our culture is not a safe place for negative feelings about parenting. And it feeds on itself, because the message parents get is, "well no one else ever says anything about not liking it, so I must be really, really wrong. What am I missing?"
Add to this the working parent who gets shamed for wanting to go back to work "Why even bother to have a baby if you're just going to leave it with strangers?". The SAHM who is portrayed as a sacrificial lamb, "She has no identity outside her children. She's really smart, too. What a waste".
My inner femi-nazi is driven insane by women who hijack the women's rights movement as a kind of mandate for moms everywhere to go back into the workplace. Women's rights are about women supporting one another regardless of their decision. We are fighting for choice, not to make the choice to be more like men.
Ok, I know it sounds like I got off track, but I'll tie it together. Parenting is a job. People bitch about their jobs. Nobody says to them, "You wouldn't feel that way if you had stayed home with your kids. You made your bed...". But when it comes from a stay at home mom, almost invariably, the underlying opinion is that of, "Hey that's what you wanted. You asked for it. Nobody made you do it". So, yeah, tell me how you work in close quarters with 5 co-workers and never have fleeting moments when you think about sabotaging your next casserole at the potluck dinner with something that would make them unable to come to work for a week. It happens to Moms, too.
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Post by nomorewirehanger on Jan 2, 2016 10:50:50 GMT -7
Preach.
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Post by nomorewirehanger on Jan 2, 2016 10:52:27 GMT -7
And.
Not all of this chose it.
If it was financially feasible? I'd be back at a job. Any job. Tomorrow. My staying home is a huge personal sacrifice because as much as I love my kids? I never have wanted to be a sahm. I'd rather be at work missing them and then enjoy them when I get to see them then stuck in close quarters with them all day
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Post by ronin on Jan 4, 2016 5:40:58 GMT -7
Amen from me. I can't deal with my kids for more than a long weekend. Mine also bitch about not going anywhere fun. I've sunk to telling them how much it costs to go to XYZ Funplace and then I make them count their piggy bank. That keeps them busy for a while. One of my coworkers sent me this yesterday. I've never felt like the person in the first frame, but the second...  |
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Post by nomorewirehanger on Jan 4, 2016 6:26:26 GMT -7
I'm basically laying in bed this morning (the one I didn't crawl into until 4 am when the sperm donor left. Long story. )
Going "24 hours honey. In 24 hours you get to drop all of their Crazy, pouty, ingrate assess off at their various places of education....
And silence for 6.
You. can. do.this.
Only way it's happening sooner is if you finally snap and kill their daddy and well, you look awful in orange mon cher.
24 hours. Just hang in there."
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Post by kissy on Jan 4, 2016 13:56:58 GMT -7
This break has actually been nice. One, I have my own house I can escape to, and also because my parents were here and then Jeremy's mom came (she's actually mostly useless, for example it's almost 3pm and she's still in pjs camped out on the couch watching tv at Jeremy's house, Ryan is here with me). So yeah, Ryan was with me or Jeremy 24/7 and that was nice. But yeah, I totally get it, I don't believe we were meant to handle it all on our own but we tend to move away from family and creating a balanced village isn't easy.
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Post by nomorewirehanger on Jan 4, 2016 14:11:33 GMT -7
His village is full of crazies or idiots anyway. Better off on my own Lol
Speaking of. That tool I married still hasn't contacted HR about taking one day off much less close to three weeks off for the baby.
Ten bucks I'm in delivery alone and have to hire someone to drive my kids to and from school for a week.
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