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Post by noodle on Sept 30, 2015 15:57:00 GMT -7
For real. Teenagers make me sad. I pretend to be a hard ass IRL, but I'm really just a big titty baby.
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Post by History on Sept 30, 2015 17:17:20 GMT -7
I'm not looking forward to that particular stage. I remember what a shit I was as a teen and I can't even imagine.
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Post by ronin on Sept 30, 2015 18:37:27 GMT -7
My kids are already assholes. I'm thinking about boarding school.  |
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Post by noodle on Oct 1, 2015 9:14:55 GMT -7
I'm not looking forward to that particular stage. I remember what a shit I was as a teen and I can't even imagine. I was a horrible teenager too. I kept thinking, 'but he is so sweet, and there is no way he will ever be like that!' 
He is still really sweet & kind, and effing brilliant & he is honest to God, such a well wounded kid. But he can be so mean. Not with bad words or yelling or anything - he is always respectful - but with silence & annoyance & an overall bitchy attitude. He is the definition of moody. I was really not expecting it to be so intense. I don't even know how to explain it. It's just depressing. Being a teenager is the worst, for real. I remember it well. But being the parent of a teenager...... 
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Post by kissy on Oct 1, 2015 17:57:26 GMT -7
Big hugs! He's also a young man, man being the operative word. I'm sure it'll get better, get through the hormone stage maybe??
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Post by noodle on Oct 2, 2015 13:50:13 GMT -7
Perfect example. A just got dropped off at my work by his Dad (like he does every Friday). He comes in, doesn't respond to my 'hey bud', sits down - knowing damn well his little brother (who idolizes him & misses him so much) is in the back office eagerly awaiting his arrival. Picks up a magazine, and just hangs out. I said 'Um, you know your little brother is back there, right?' he responds with 'Yup'.
I give it a few minutes to see if he is going to go back there (C had not realized he was here yet) - and he doesn't budge. Finally I said 'A, I would really appreciate it if you went back and at least said hi to your little brother'..... cue look of DEATH. He did go back there, but this is the kind of shit he does now. And he KNOWS I don't expect him to play with him or anything, they are 5 years apart. But effing say Hi at least!!!!
He is looking to frustrate me & upset me. AND ONLY ME! He doesn't pull this shit with anyone else (at least not this bad). And I have no doubt that when we go home - he will go straight up to his room & completely ignore me & C. I've said to him before - 'dude, if you don't want to be here, just say so' - but he always says 'I want to be here' but then goes back into his moody fucking trance.
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Post by smokinghorse on Oct 2, 2015 14:36:42 GMT -7
I'm sorry, Noodz. I've bewn in similar situations, and it just feels like they reach into your chest and rip your heart out. It's almost physically painful. FWIW, I have read that when your kids act out like that around you, but are great to others, it means that they trust you, and feel safe enough with you to let out their frustrations. Like, I know my mom will never leave me, so I can finally release all the emotions I have to swallow around everybody else. Which sucks, but it always made me feel a little better.
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Post by noodle on Oct 3, 2015 7:00:39 GMT -7
I'm sorry, Noodz. I've bewn in similar situations, and it just feels like they reach into your chest and rip your heart out. It's almost physically painful. FWIW, I have read that when your kids act out like that around you, but are great to others, it means that they trust you, and feel safe enough with you to let out their frustrations. Like, I know my mom will never leave me, so I can finally release all the emotions I have to swallow around everybody else. Which sucks, but it always made me feel a little better. Definitely makes me feel better too! Thank you for sharing that.
Last night actually turned out awesome. He hung out with me & C the entire night and we actually had fun! This morning as I was walking out the door for work, he totally said 'I love you Mom'. I almost fainted. 
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Post by smokinghorse on Oct 3, 2015 7:12:10 GMT -7
I'm so glad! They giveth, and they taketh away. Sometimes you're a bullseye, sometimes you're a buddy.
I had a similar night. Hung out with Eli and had an AMAZING conversation! Having your 16 yo talk to you about serious, deeply felt emotions that moved him to tears? Might be a once in a lifetime!! I'm putting it in my emotional bank so I can withdraw it a little at a time when he's being a punk.
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Post by noodle on Oct 3, 2015 7:42:54 GMT -7
I'm so glad! They giveth, and they taketh away. Sometimes you're a bullseye, sometimes you're a buddy. I had a similar night. Hung out with Eli and had an AMAZING conversation! Having your 16 yo talk to you about serious, deeply felt emotions that moved him to tears? Might be a once in a lifetime!! I'm putting it in my emotional bank so I can withdraw it a little at a time when he's being a punk. YES!!!!!
That is pretty damn special. I'm so glad you had such an awesome night.
Having teenagers:
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Post by nomorewirehanger on Oct 20, 2015 11:12:03 GMT -7
Mine is gonna be the death of me Lol one second he is great the next his bedroom door is barricaded and he's refusing to speak to anyone. Mind blowing and confusing
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