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Post by nomorewirehanger on Dec 5, 2015 12:39:50 GMT -7
WTF do you DO?
L has reported back to me on being called names. Informed that if she tattles "I will tell my mom and you will get expelled." Etc etc.
Now. I've told L to just tell the child where to jump off. She actually has ZERO power and even if she tells her mom, tattling on a little turd for being ugly to her can't get her expelled. (I consider this pretty sound advice since her father and brothers advice were both " slap the taste out of her mouth and then tell her to tell her mom THAT next time she calls you a name.)
I consider seven too young for mean girl problems so I've typically ignored her complaints about said child and told her to continue to take the high road.
Enter this little bitches newest plan. Her fake " cheer team." All the "cool girls" get to participate. The brat's mother even printed out flyers letting them know if they had practice during recess. It's ridiculous. Multiple kids getting yelled at and name called during recess with no repercussion. Some girls being excluded entirely "if they make J mad she tells them they can't play and if they tell her she's not the boss she says 'no my mom is though'"
L's best friend went home in tears multiple days this week because she's big into dance and cheer and this little brat told her she "sucks" and can't play if she's not gonna do what she says. L got mad and "quit" Wednesday and was informed that wasn't allowed. Because... She was gonna tell and get her suspended.
It's bullshit. Teacher is principal's best friend outside of school too.
Wtf do we DO?!?
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Post by nomorewirehanger on Dec 5, 2015 12:45:28 GMT -7
*mom apparently has been talked to. Nothing has changed and in fact things got worse. Girl got meaner because they got her in trouble.
*several parents are planning on going to administration if things don't change by Christmas break. I see that being pointless. They are gonna side with the employee. I've been down this road before with B. And my kid almost got expelled for real. This district is highly narcissistic.
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Post by ronin on Dec 5, 2015 13:10:07 GMT -7
I was going to suggest admin or the Superintendent. Fruitless or no, that's your best shot at standing up for your girl. Especially if you're going with the other parents. A crowd of angry parents would be hard to ignore.
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Post by nomorewirehanger on Dec 5, 2015 14:05:03 GMT -7
Yea. I told her besties mom to let me know when they go. There are at least four girls parents who are pissed.
All of our kids can't be exaggerating.
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Post by smokinghorse on Dec 5, 2015 20:49:34 GMT -7
I'm not following. I've been thinking too much today and have little brain power left.
Who invented the cheer team, and why is it leading to yelling and name calling? Is the brat's mother the teacher? How have you managed to not throttle anyone?
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Post by nomorewirehanger on Dec 6, 2015 11:16:04 GMT -7
Brat invented cheer team for fun. Brat is daughter of school principal. Brat is using that to her advantage to bully other children. Brat's mother apparently doesn't care
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Post by nomorewirehanger on Dec 6, 2015 11:20:48 GMT -7
And I haven't throttled anyone because I found out about the extent of it yesterday. And tomorrow is Monday lol
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Post by smokinghorse on Dec 6, 2015 18:11:16 GMT -7
Has the principal juat been ignoring all this B.S.?
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Post by nomorewirehanger on Dec 6, 2015 18:26:26 GMT -7
As far as we can tell. Yes. But the kids are also refusing to tell the teacher and begging us not too. The little twat has them terrified of repercussions if they so much as speak their name out of turn. Apparently (according to L) the last girl who tattled was come down on like the wrath of God by brat face. Who then threatened to run to her mom and get anyone who tattled on her "in major trouble. Because she's Mrs. W(teachers) best friend and Her boss too!" What's sad is is none of the parents want to say anything because they don't want their kids grades to be effected, their test scores to be altered (this is the gifted and talented class. Those scores effect placement next year) and the principal is not likely to do anything that discipline wise effects her own child. So unless we all go no one wants to go. Fuck even I'm hesitant. I fought the man for b... And that fuck made his life HELL the rest of elementary. That kid couldn't blink without ending up in ISS .  ? |
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Post by smokinghorse on Dec 6, 2015 18:53:02 GMT -7
There's always a chance that the principal knows her kid is an asshole. It might be that hearing how rotten the brat is being will not come as a huge revelation. I know some parents are in total denial about what their angels are capable of, but some see their kids in a pretty realistic way.
If I heard my kid was doing that shit, I'd be mortified. And I'd be grateful that somebody told me, so I could deal with it.
Probably just wishful thinking, but you never know.
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Post by nomorewirehanger on Dec 6, 2015 19:47:43 GMT -7
That's my HOPE. That when multiple parents come to her and say "hey, your precious is making our kids cry and fear for their grades and threatening to have them suspended"
She may catch the hint. I hope. We are gonna see how deep the rabbit hole goes this week. I've informed L to simply avoid playing with the child and stick with her other friends and assured her that even if by some miracle the little shit manages to get her in "trouble" for quitting cheer...
That school has already seen first hand how little fucks I give. I already have the reputation as the crazy bitch. It won't bug me to earn the damn thing
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Post by nomorewirehanger on Dec 7, 2015 8:56:33 GMT -7
She woke up with her face swollen and puffy from allergies and begged me not to go to school. This is the kid who I've had to convince to stay home in the past because she had horrific diarrhea. Not even because she was stuffy and feeling bad "I'm gonna get made fun of. She's gonna make fun of my face. Please don't make me go."
It was hard. But I gave her some allergy medicine and a big hug and told her that if anyone is ugly to her about being under the weather they are no friend and she can tell them that. "But I'll get in trouble"
No. No you won't kid.
It's taking a lot for me to not text the teacher and see how her day is going.
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Post by kissy on Dec 7, 2015 9:42:57 GMT -7
Text her teacher and see how her day is going.  It's so sad when stuff like this happens.  |
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Post by smokinghorse on Dec 7, 2015 12:47:00 GMT -7
I agree w/kissy. Totally acceptable to check on her. I wouldn't hesitate for a sec.
This situation is heartbreaking. I know there are variables that you have to consider that are specific to your situation (principal is parent, teacher is principal's bestie, fucked up small town politics, TX is a whole other country), but this is intolerable.
I was thinking about what I would do. I worry that going over the principal's head might backfire. Because the first thing the administration is going to ask is: Did you tell the teacher, and how did she respond? The second will be the same question about the principal. The fact that you didn't approach either of them might seriously undermine your position. Because what can the administration do about this? No one in the system has failed to do anything, because no one has been informed. The only person who has done anything really shitty is the brat girl.
I would make a list of the ways she's making school miserable for your daughter and email the teacher. And if the teacher blows you off, I would include her response in my next email to the principal. They have to be given a chance to succeed or fail before you go over their heads, I think. I would worry that the higher-ups will not take this seriously if you don't do your due diligence. And this is serious. I'm all for kids trying to stand up for themselves, but bullying is serious business. These kids develop issues that last a lifetime. Our schools have to do better.
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Post by nomorewirehanger on Dec 7, 2015 14:37:07 GMT -7
Teacher was very responsive to me. Emboldened by the fact that I said something one other mom texted on her kids behalf as well. It singles them out but fuck it. I want my kid happy at school again. Teacher was very clear she didn't care whose kid it was she was handling it. And apparently talked to the girl today alone to set her straight and talked to my daughter and her bestie after school to cheer them up. So . hopefully it helps. If nothing else I have multiple screen shots saved showing I contacted the teacher. In this district documentation is everything. And as I told the other mom this morning. I was the ignorant parent of a bully for YEARS. And no one said a WORD. HOW THE FUCK WAS I SUPPOSED TO FIX A PROBLEM I DIDN'T KNOW ABOUT?
So now teacher and I'm assuming by proxy Mom will know. And maybe this shit will get straightened out.
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