Post by smokinghorse on Oct 30, 2015 6:48:37 GMT -7
I guess I've gotten lucky. Aside from a "peaceful demonstration" demanding the right to wear hats in school, my big kids never got in trouble at school. Ever.
So it came as a shock when G's teacher told us that she routinely has to remove him from class because he's throwing crying, screaming fits. Apparently he pounds his fists on the ground and bangs his head. He has never done this at home. Ever. I'm mortified. His problem is frustration when 1) He is working in a group and they don't agree with him, or want to do anything other than what he suggests, and 2) He has absolute meltdowns if he looks around and sees other kids making mistakes, and they don't "fix it" when he tries to tell them how to do it correctly.
We've tried to drill it into his fat, controlling brain that great leaders know their limitations and always see that listening to others is crucial. We've told him to remind himself that it's not his job to teach, and that he is not responsible for anyone except himself. If they get it wrong, that effects him, and his grade, in no way. It's not his problem. Not to mention that it's not okay to make the teacher stop teaching and deal only with him, or the time it takes away from his classmates.
This is hard. I know it's a control issue, and he does struggle with that in lots of ways. But the fit thing? Just, no. It's okay to get frustrated, but it's not okay to deal with it by throwing a temper tantrum.
Anybody dealt with this kind of thing?
So it came as a shock when G's teacher told us that she routinely has to remove him from class because he's throwing crying, screaming fits. Apparently he pounds his fists on the ground and bangs his head. He has never done this at home. Ever. I'm mortified. His problem is frustration when 1) He is working in a group and they don't agree with him, or want to do anything other than what he suggests, and 2) He has absolute meltdowns if he looks around and sees other kids making mistakes, and they don't "fix it" when he tries to tell them how to do it correctly.
We've tried to drill it into his fat, controlling brain that great leaders know their limitations and always see that listening to others is crucial. We've told him to remind himself that it's not his job to teach, and that he is not responsible for anyone except himself. If they get it wrong, that effects him, and his grade, in no way. It's not his problem. Not to mention that it's not okay to make the teacher stop teaching and deal only with him, or the time it takes away from his classmates.
This is hard. I know it's a control issue, and he does struggle with that in lots of ways. But the fit thing? Just, no. It's okay to get frustrated, but it's not okay to deal with it by throwing a temper tantrum.
Anybody dealt with this kind of thing?
