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Post by kissy on Oct 14, 2015 12:30:34 GMT -7
Last night we had friends over to my new house and they stayed later than expected (which is fine) and so Ryan went to bed later than normal and I was going to blow off his homework and just have him turn it in tomorrow. This morning he tells me that if he doesn't get his homework done he has to sit out at recess. I was a little gobsmacked, and maybe I shouldn't be. Maybe I'm just lazy? I guess I feel like at this point (2nd grade) he shouldn't be penalized for homework like that since he's not completely responsible for stuff like that at his age. Please tell me if you think I'm wrong! This is not something that happens often at all, I swear, but there are times when other things are just more important. I need some insight please!
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Post by KyLady on Oct 14, 2015 12:47:23 GMT -7
My kids don't get homework, so I don't know what to tell you.
I would probably write a note in his handbook telling the teacher that it wasn't Ryan's fault that his homework wasn't finished
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Post by kissy on Oct 14, 2015 12:56:09 GMT -7
I have done that before when he's gotten frustrated with his math and I was having a hard time understanding it as well.
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Post by ronin on Oct 14, 2015 13:45:36 GMT -7
My kids get homework every day but Friday and have since Kindergarten. There are repercussions for them too, but it's different.
They get school bucks to spend at school, but none when they act up or don't finish their homework.
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Post by KyLady on Oct 14, 2015 15:17:50 GMT -7
My kids never get homework and Sarah is in grade 4. They also don't have any sort of playful formal behaviour system
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Post by History on Oct 14, 2015 16:06:57 GMT -7
That's how it's always been for E too Kissy. When he was younger I'd write a note in his planner if it was my fault he didn't get it done. Now it's up to him. He knows the consequences if he doesn't do it.
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Post by kissy on Oct 14, 2015 16:24:56 GMT -7
I suppose at the end of the day it's a good lesson for him. I think I'm just being super sensitive because of all Ryan is going through right now.
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Post by History on Oct 14, 2015 16:48:02 GMT -7
I guess it depends on if he pulled an Ethan and waited until bed time to tell you he had homework lol. That's when I started letting him take the consequences at school. The first couple times I let him stay up late and finish it then it dawned on me that it was a ploy to delay bedtime. So now he knows he either does it before bedtime or he will lose his recess.
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Post by kissy on Oct 15, 2015 5:35:05 GMT -7
Haha, no it wasn't anything like that--this time. At this point I know when he has homework and I check his folder everyday because his teacher always sends home so much stuff. I'm sure at some point he'll try to wait until last minute and that's absolutely when he should suffer consequences! We're in a good rhythm now and he has to do his homework when he fm gets home from school before he can play on his computer or go outside. The other night there was just a lot going on so I didn't worry about it.
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Post by History on Oct 15, 2015 12:30:29 GMT -7
Yeah those nights happen. And as a former teacher I can tell you I usually understood. It depends on his teacher really.
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Post by kissy on Oct 15, 2015 13:53:56 GMT -7
Yeah those nights happen. And as a former teacher I can tell you I usually understood. It depends on his teacher really. Ok good, I'm glad I'm not the only one it happens to! And yeah, his teacher is pretty awesome, he actually has to sit out of recess often because he fails to complete his work on time. He told me today that she goes too fast sometimes. He's doing really well though. |
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Post by mon on Oct 16, 2015 13:34:22 GMT -7
Yeah those nights happen. And as a former teacher I can tell you I usually understood. It depends on his teacher really. Ok good, I'm glad I'm not the only one it happens to! And yeah, his teacher is pretty awesome, he actually has to sit out of recess often because he fails to complete his work on time. He told me today that she goes too fast sometimes. He's doing really well though. This was a great big huge issue with me and Kylee's teacher this year. Kylee never had recess because of not finishing her work. She was diagnosed with ADHD along with other things earlier this year. We finally came to an understanding that she could miss one of two recesses per day if need be to finish her work in class. She was to have no more than an hour of homework. You know what between all of that and finally getting on a very low dose of ADHD medication, she is doing so much better. I'm super proud of her because she is working hard in class, and her teacher told me today she can tell a difference. What do you know, allowing a kid to actually play instead of sit the entire recess helps them to focus in the classroom. |
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Post by noodle on Oct 17, 2015 14:07:30 GMT -7
C is in 3rd grade & also has homework every night. This year his teacher is a total hard ass about turning it in. They also miss recess, which I think is an excessive punishment for elementary aged kids. I can see if its allllll the time, but to miss an assignment here & there (& still turn it in!) is ridiculous.
Kissy, you are by no means a lazy parent. Shit happens sometimes! Plus, you guys are going through a huge transition right now!!!! Don't be hard on yourself!
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Post by KyLady on Oct 17, 2015 14:29:55 GMT -7
I would be so pissed if my kids were missing recess. How are kids supposed to pay attention in class if they never have any down time to let off steam? The only times my kids have missed outdoor recess is because of inclement weather and even then it has to be really fucking inclement.
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Post by ronin on Oct 17, 2015 16:10:13 GMT -7
Welcome to the Great American Educational System!
This has to be a recent thing. I don't remember having homework until at least 4th, if not 6th, grade. My coworkers are always floored when I tell them that my kids get homework every day.
It's not fair to the kids at all. Or to families. There's too many times I've felt it necessary to apologize to the kids' teachers that they didn't have homework done because we didn't make it home until it was too late to squeeze in anything but a light dinner before bedtime. :/ They're understanding, but I still feel like they're silently judging me.
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