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Post by kissy on Jan 22, 2016 7:58:56 GMT -7
But I saw a post this morning about 'what mom's REALLY look like hours after giving birth' and it was a picture this woman posted. I get what she's going for but I'm kinda tired of the 'this is what it REALLY looks like' posts about whatever. As if a woman who doesn't look like her after childbirth is an anomaly or she isn't 'real'.
I didn't look like her after childbirth, and if I was 'glowing' it was because it was the end of July in south Alabama and that was sweat not some satisfied glow from becoming a new mom.
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Post by nomorewirehanger on Jan 22, 2016 10:27:28 GMT -7
I laughed at the post because.... everyone looks differently.
Lana: I looked and felt like a fucking TRUCK hit me. Not only had I not slept in three days I did twelve hours of hard labor and didn't get pain relief until the very end when I begged for the epidural. I look sweaty, exhausted, have HUGE purple bags of tired under my eyes. And a very big smile on my face because it was over and she was here.
Gabby: well I was dressed and made up to.be out running errands that day and had no intention of having a baby. So I look pretty together that day.
Penny: induced. I'm made up. Hair combed. Nails done. I look like a rockstar. Lol because I had HOURS of boredom waiting on the pitocin to kick in. And I did my hair and makeup while I waited because.... L was at Walmart. What else was I gonna do. Lol
No clue about this one. I'm gonna have not been able to eat for over 14 hours at that point. I'm likely to appear hangry.
There's no set way to look Lol I've been told flat out my post penny pics are an "unfair" representation of child birth.
Well...my vagina is more awesome than theirs and I got my kids out in one push? I didn't realize it was a competition and that not looking a hot mess or looking a hot mess was an indication of woman hood?
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Post by kissy on Jan 22, 2016 16:39:20 GMT -7
So you saw it? I mean, I'm not at all judging her as far as how she looks 24 hours after giving birth and I LOVE the fact that she's showing herself like that, still swollen, wearing a sling, and breastfeeding her baby, but I dislike the whole 'this is what it REALLY looks like'. No, this is what it looks like for YOU, and that's great! And maybe there are some other moms who will say OMG, this is what I look like too! But there are plenty of others who look totally different, for whatever reason, and that's fine too. Just stop with trying to make something the 'norm'.
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Post by nomorewirehanger on Jan 22, 2016 19:51:40 GMT -7
Exactly. Like... more power to you lady. Love the sentiment. But that isn't everyone's reality
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Post by smokinghorse on Jan 22, 2016 22:01:43 GMT -7
I totally agree. I googled the pic. I should preface this by saying I'm in a shitty mood, so take it for what it's worth. It may just be me, but I don't get a, "hey, it's normal to look like this after giving birth" vibe so much as "this is what you SHOULD look like hours after giving birth IF you're doing it right". An implied, attention-seeking superiority.
Again, I may be missing the mark, due to my higher than normal snark level. I just imagine this in the same vein as the humble brag. Look how brave and heroic I am to show my freshly post-partum body! Mothers everywhere will praise my strength and fearlessness in educating the world. Because I'm super well adjusted! Also, every time I stop being pregnant, all the attention goes to the stupid baby. Fuck that noise. This time I got wise to the fact that this baby is a perfect prop to enhance this completely natural looking, yet brilliantly manipulated, ode to motherhood. Looook!! LOOOOK!!!! No, at MEEEE!
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Post by kissy on Jan 23, 2016 7:47:40 GMT -7
Exactly Abby!! That's exactly the way I took it, probably because it was put out for public consumption seemingly for the purpose of making women feel good maybe? Like, if a woman who is super fit before birth Boyce's back super quick then she's somehow not real/realistic. It's the same with posting pictures of curvy women and claiming them to be 'real'--that's just as bad as posting a pic of a skinny girl and claiming she's real. Both need to stfu!
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Post by smokinghorse on Jan 23, 2016 9:18:03 GMT -7
I actually think that the mom in the picture is in pretty good shape. Her arms were fairly toned, and her belly was, well, pretty standard 24 hours post baby. I guess it wasn't just the picture, but the picture in the context of the whole message. It was the emotion that felt contrived to me. That melodramatic, pretentious pseudo-poetic garbage that "resonated" with every mother on the internet? No. I found it painful to read. Absolutely hollow. Long on thesaurus, short on authenticity.
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Post by nomorewirehanger on Jan 23, 2016 12:00:27 GMT -7
For me it's just.... click bait. Like so much of the worthlessness that is Facebook now. She looks like a new mom. Good for her. I looked different each child.
It's just... irrelevant. I always greet that type of thing (and this is post beach body cynicism here. Putting what I wanted the world to see out there for a year while hiding the ugly taught me A LOT about FB) with "you're just as fake as the rest of us stfu" frame of mind and also a bit of "no one cares.! "
I just see it as a way to make her feel good aboyt HERSELF. she didn't do it for other women. She likely did it so someone could tell her how brave and awesome she was for putting her diapered ass on Facebook.
It's just... dumb.
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Post by smokinghorse on Jan 23, 2016 12:31:46 GMT -7
Yup. It doesn't help her credibility with me that her original post was directed to the maker of the baby sling.
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Post by kissy on Jan 23, 2016 12:31:56 GMT -7
I think she looked beautiful, especially after just having given birth. Like Abby said, it was the message that came along with it. I think it's great for women to share these things because it is REAL it's just not real in terms of what everyone should think they should look like--as if her reality is everyone else. It just bugged me.
I loved seeing your beach body progress pics Chelsea, it was inspiring. I also don't mind seeing pics of women who are super tone and have crazy abs, I think it's a great accomplishment, it's just not what I personally would strive to look like.
Remember that one mom with the three kids that got so many people all riled up, I think it had the tagline 'what's your excuse'? Yeah, that one never bothered me because quite frankly I don't necessarily care to look like her but it also showed me that it just takes some planning to be able to work out and achieve whatever results one is looking for. I saw it as inspirational, again, not because I might strive to look like HER, but that I could get healthy and tone if I really wanted to, especially with only one kid.
I dunno, it just bugged me.
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Post by smokinghorse on Jan 23, 2016 13:03:16 GMT -7
Birth opens us like an earthquake opens the earth and I am still in the intimate, fragile throes of that opening,' she continued. 'I feel raw. Emotional. Different. I feel like I'm on the undulating surface of the rippling ocean being tossed back and forth between happiness, gratitude, melancholy, and grief'
'23 hours ago I held life within and 24 hours ago I surged and transformed allowing life to flow through me, into my waiting hands.'
'The emptiness in my womb brings a heavy feeling crashing into reality but then this new little life whimpers, searching for the breast with soft rooting, and I feel whole again.'
I am still processing the beautiful transition my whole family has traveled through and I am in complete awe of our strength as humans, women, and mothers. This time is simply unlike any other. #fourthtrimester"
I am also in awe. That no one is questioning your motives. #howmuch$haveyoumade #15minutes #whendowegettoseethebaby
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Post by nomorewirehanger on Jan 23, 2016 13:08:08 GMT -7
Lol Abby. You just need to walk around and be my theme music hahaha please.
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Post by kissy on Jan 23, 2016 13:10:32 GMT -7
 My womb is empty, hell yeah it is and thank fsm! |
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Post by nomorewirehanger on Jan 23, 2016 13:18:43 GMT -7
And I look back on my beach body efforts with a mixture of pride and shame. Sure I got shit done fitness wise. I plan on doing it again.
But the shadows behind that facade were darker than I talk about in public. I'll also never work for an mlm ever again.
My coach and her coach? One is now a millionaire and the other pulls six figures and both are secretly just as fat as they've always been because they can post pics of other people's successes all they want. I've video chatted with them and half their down line. They aren't "still struggling" ... they are frauds.. there is simply no possible way you work out 7 days a week, (not THESE workouts anyway) drink shakeology one to two times daily, and eat clean 80% of the time and juggle losing the same ten.pounds for three fucking years unless you have a thyroid condition. (Neither does)
It cheapens their original process and the entire fitness and health movement and is for sure a turn off for those of us who essentially got used for our great progress and before and after photos. The things ya learn once you leave are ... amazing.
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Post by nomorewirehanger on Jan 23, 2016 13:20:44 GMT -7
By my calculations if 2/3 of what is on either of their pages were true they should both be in body builder competition shape.
Not pushing 200+ lbs.
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