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Post by kissy on Sept 30, 2015 6:23:55 GMT -7
So my husband and I are separating. Today we close on the house we've purchased for me to move in to. After 15 years we just couldn't make it work. Maybe living apart will help, I don't know. This has been going on for quite a while now so I'm doing quite well at this point, lol. I have my moments though. It's all very amicable as long as I'm not downing liquor and feeling sorry for myself.  |
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Post by KyLady on Sept 30, 2015 7:06:54 GMT -7
I'm so glad you guys can do it amicably. Do you have pics of the house?
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Post by KyLady on Sept 30, 2015 7:08:11 GMT -7
How's Ryan handling it all? Do you have custody agreements in place already?
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Post by ronin on Sept 30, 2015 7:10:39 GMT -7
So my husband and I are separating. Today we close on the house we've purchased for me to move in to. After 15 years we just couldn't make it work. Maybe living apart will help, I don't know. This has been going on for quite a while now so I'm doing quite well at this point, lol. I have my moments though. It's all very amicable as long as I'm not downing liquor and feeling sorry for myself. Hugs, lady. That's a tough transition, especially after so long. |
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Post by kissy on Sept 30, 2015 7:42:50 GMT -7
Thanks Ronin.  It is very amicable, we aren't looking at an actual divorce yet, as I'm not working and will need that and health insurance. Ryan doesn't really understand what's going on, we're telling him that daddy is going to stay at this house because he has to sell it but he can stay at both places. We're trying to keep it upbeat and 'fun'? No need for custody agreements or any of that jazz, neither one of us wants that. We'll just work together, as we have been, just living apart. Ryan comes first, he always has! Let me see if I can find the Zillow listing... |
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Post by KyLady on Sept 30, 2015 8:29:26 GMT -7
Is it wrong that I'm sitting here feeling jealous of you? Colin and I have been so hot and cold lately. I secretly wish that he'd just get in a car crash on his commute one of these days so I could live in peace without the guilt of divorce. But then he'll be the sweetest man on earth and life is good again. It's driving me bonkers. My own house, a peaceful relationship and the occasional booty call sounds like heaven on earth.
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Post by noodle on Sept 30, 2015 8:53:54 GMT -7
Thanks Ronin. It is very amicable, we aren't looking at an actual divorce yet, as I'm not working and will need that and health insurance. Ryan doesn't really understand what's going on, we're telling him that daddy is going to stay at this house because he has to sell it but he can stay at both places. We're trying to keep it upbeat and 'fun'? No need for custody agreements or any of that jazz, neither one of us wants that. We'll just work together, as we have been, just living apart. Ryan comes first, he always has! Let me see if I can find the Zillow listing... BRAVO for the amicable part, to both of you. FOR REAL.
I am sorry you guys are going through this transition, but it sounds like it will hopefully work out to be a win/win for everyone. Can we PM on this board? I am totally going to PM you if so.
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Post by KyLady on Sept 30, 2015 8:59:39 GMT -7
I know I saw a private message button somewhere, but I haven't tried to use it yet
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Post by smokinghorse on Sept 30, 2015 9:57:42 GMT -7
I was wondering about that. Glad that you guys are able to be civil. It's still hard though. The unknown is scary, but life ain't for sissies, ya know?
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Post by tuzla on Sept 30, 2015 18:01:00 GMT -7
Congratulations, Kissy. My ex and I are still in the throes of "fuck you in court two years after the divorce." I could do without that particular booty call, tyvm.  It takes a lot. I'd like to talk more about it when the locked section is locked. |
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Post by kissy on Oct 1, 2015 4:46:45 GMT -7
Is it wrong that I'm sitting here feeling jealous of you? Colin and I have been so hot and cold lately. I secretly wish that he'd just get in a car crash on his commute one of these days so I could live in peace without the guilt of divorce. But then he'll be the sweetest man on earth and life is good again. It's driving me bonkers. My own house, a peaceful relationship and the occasional booty call sounds like heaven on earth. Nope, I totally understand. I've never been one to judge other peoples marriages/relationships (or at least I don't think I have been) because mine was not 'conventional' and I just figured hey, if someone finds a way to have a happy marriage then let it be! But yeah, don't wish he was in a car crash, lol! I will say though that the guilt I've felt has been insane and I've had some great folks talk me through it. When I finally told my mom, I broke down and said I felt like a failure and she was completely taken aback--I don't think her and my dad realize how much pressure they put on me to always do the right thing, lol! The funny thing is everyone is being supportive at this point, and they've all said they kinda sensed it was coming--I didn't realize we were being that transparent!  |
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Post by kissy on Oct 1, 2015 4:48:13 GMT -7
Congratulations, Kissy. My ex and I are still in the throes of "fuck you in court two years after the divorce." I could do without that particular booty call, tyvm. It takes a lot. I'd like to talk more about it when the locked section is locked. I'm so sorry you're having to go through all that! I'm very fortunate that's not my situation at all. I think it took so long for us to get to this point because neither of us was willing to break up our home because of Ryan. We've finally just hit a wall and this is the next step. I wish you and your ex could do the same, it's so much nicer! |
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Post by kissy on Oct 1, 2015 4:48:47 GMT -7
I was wondering about that. Glad that you guys are able to be civil. It's still hard though. The unknown is scary, but life ain't for sissies, ya know? It's getting easier as time goes on. I've had a pretty charmed life so yeah, change is hard and the unknown is incredibly frightening! |
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Post by kissy on Oct 1, 2015 5:08:03 GMT -7
So we closed on the house yesterday, it's officially mine! Unfortunately the sellers turned off the utilities so that will happen today. Bastids. But we went over there yesterday afternoon with Ryan and the dogs, J and I had a beer and walked around talking about where things can go and what all I need. I wanted to bring something special over, the first thing in the house, but I couldn't think of anything so instead I let Ryan pee in the backyard on a tree. It's quite perfect, the territory is marked. Oh and Perry (the dog) pooped twice. All is well.
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Post by ronin on Oct 1, 2015 5:44:34 GMT -7
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